Like Father Like Son

My wife and I has been discussing how to let go certain things in parenting, i.e. to accept things for what they are and not too be stressed out with the kids. It all comes down to balance, on how much you are willing to close a blind eye and how much you want something for your kids. I find it ironic that when you want your children to have a ‘better’ life etc, you need to make them do it. Now when I am older, I remember what my parents and older siblings have advised me on, things like being more cautious with money, focus more on Islamic understanding etc. Now only I understand their intention.

But then again, when I am in not so good position myself, I now advise my children almost the exact same thing. Is this the part where you are crazy because you are doing the same things but expecting different result? I don’t think so. I think the general advice stays the same throughout the ages, like not spending lavishly on unnecessary things, still apply since the age where salt is paid for salary, and until the future where bitcoin is paid with a confirmation from your brainwave. Same applies as being kind and hardworking. Gold advices are not tarnished by age, only by the giver. Hence it is not the problem with the advice, rather with me giving the advice. I myself need to swallow the bitter pill and follow my same advice(s).

Hence when I see my son, or daughter doing things that I am not happy about, I know that partly, those are my faults too.

Thank you for reading.