Kids Communication

My kids like to play this game: If you can only choose two types of gummy in your life that you can eat, what would you choose?

Who would be eating only on gummies their whole life? And why would you need to choose? What put you in this saccharine situation?

I was reading the book Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg that I was reminded of the situations above. My kids were communicating in a different type to me.

Charles Duhigg said they are three areas of communication.

My kids were maybe in the “WHO ARE WE?” communication type, with a blend of “HOW DO WE FEEL?”, while I was completely absorbed in my own bubble of speech in the type “WHAT’S THIS REALLY ABOUT?”. No wonder we weren’t in sync.

I’ll keep on reading the book, and write more observations in the future.

Thank you for reading.

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