Phases of Parents Life

It just occured to me that my children are getting bigger, i.e. growing and becoming teens, that it seems a bit disjointed with my view of my own life. I have been working over a decade now so it seems plausible to imagine how I would work or how my career would be in another thirty years, which would just be another multiplication of three times the time that I had been through. However in my projection, I deluded myself that it would just be a repeat of the past 10 years, when in fact, it would be different. For one, I would be older and I would have less energy, so less likely to migrate to another country.

Secondly, during my next ten years, my children won’t be children anymore, and in the next 10 years after that, my children would even already start working. If I had not have children, life would be phases like that, a sequence of ladder but with children, life seems like an escalator, with the children riding along but standing at a different steps. That’s not quite a good anology but what I am trying to say is that parents phases do not flow the same way as corporate or career phases. As per the cliche, before you realise it, your children would grow up and leave their nest. Mine haven’t yet but I can already imagine the lost. Not sure if that’s a good thing or not.

All this thinking just make me think that we should appreciate life more, and I am going to do that starting now.

Thank you for reading.

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